Connecting the Dots..... My Adoption Journey

Using the 7 Core Learnings in Adoption - reading my experience to grow your own

Welcome to my Website


My hope in sharing my story is for all of us adoptees and parents to understand the framework of the 7 Core Issues ( which I have changed the wording to 7 Core Learnings)

I think Learnings is a much more positive and encouraging word than Issues – Issues can seem like there is something wrong with us – When there ABSOLUTELY is not -Where as Learnings is what we need to do with these 7 Core – Learn about them

What are the 7 Core Learnings?

Loss, Rejection, Shame & Guilt, Grief, Identity, Intimacy, Mastery & Control

Labelling, Recognizing and Understanding these Core Learnings are important for us to understand ourselves and our families

I have written this story not to “theorize” the Core Learning but to put them into practice

Love & Light


There are some wonderful resources to assist you in understanding the 7 Core Issues

Adoption Council of Ontario
Books- 7 Core issues In Adoption & Permanency
Online searching


About me

Cindy Stewart is an Adoptee & Mom of 3 fantastic young adults – 2 who joined their family through adoption She has been working with families in the permanency journey for the past 8 years as part of the Adoption Council of Ontario’s Pact program She is also a Private Investigator assisting Adult Adoptees & Original families in their Search & Reunion journeys

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It is important for me to support our youths in their journeys. So I am donating a portion of book proceeds to the ACO’s Youth Network

For more information on the Youth Network please visit:

Frequently Asked Questions

What is this book about?

This book is my story – it is how I have incorporated the Core 7 into my life – it is my thoughts and my journey

Is this book for children?

No. This is an adult book – which parents can use for themselves to understand 

Do I need to know the 7 Core Issues?

Yes – it would be helpful for you to be able to connect in my story with how I see the 7 core Learnings

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Any requests outside of that may have additional fees for shipping

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A great new book : Seven Core Issues in Adoption and Permanency

By: Sharon Kaplan Roszia and Allison Davis Maxon